After joining the site please check your email box for the verification email, it may end up in the spam / junk email folder so check there as well.
Also I have to physically approve membership so if I am not online it may take a couple of hours to activate; this is for member safety and privacy.
If you join using a BIGPOND email account you will not recieve a verification email or any other emails from us, Bigpond for some reason wont accept our emails. Admin will manually verify your email and within a few hours you will be able to log in.